Sticks and Stones

For the past 3 months, my roommate and best friend for almost 10 years and I have not been speaking. Our drift first started when when I initiated a physical altercation in December and our lack of communication and friendship has since gotten worse over the past 2 months. During this time she has said very negative things about me, my deceased parents, character, finances, relationships, etc.

Just last night I was talking to a mutual friend that both her and I share, and as always he was giving me unwanted advice. Our friend tried to convince me to talk things out with my ex-best friend and try  to move forward positively from the situation all together. But what he doesn't understand is, there were not only wrong actions but equally as hurtful comments and words that were each said about one another during our quarrels. I don't know what genius or philosophist came up wit the old and incredibly inaccurate saying, "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." Words do hurt. In fact, words have power and meaning, some for good and some for bad.

Often times, we say and do things out of a moment's anger that impacts a person for a lifetime. Proverbs 18:21 says "the tongue can bring life or death; those who love to talk will reap the consequences." (NLT) Although, me and my friend have both apologized and taken responsibility for each of our actions, it is still very hard to forget. Once a negative seed or unfavorable comment leaves your lips, you cannot take it back. Those hurtful comments and gestures that she said to me, I replay over and over in mind. Be mindful of the words that you use rather in good or bad situations, because how you chose to respond and act can ultimately determine the outcome of your relationship. Also be aware of how you communicate with people, sometime a simple, "I didn't mean it like that,"doesn't always make things right.

Maybe in another life, she and I can become friends again. But the hurtful words and deeds are almost unforgettable, and I know in my heart that things will ever be the same between her and I.