Does Social Media Ruin Relationships?

I remember the first time I created my Myspace account . I sat behind a huge desktop computer, the ancient ones with the booty in the back and a telephone cord that stretched across the living room to provide me with AOL dial up, and at that moment in time ... I was the happiest. For whatever reason, googling new HMTL codes , changing my background, and updating my song once every couple of days was the epitome of my day. But that was almost 10 years ago . Social media has changed , we've since then moved on from MySpace and added sites like Facebook, Instagram, and the infamous Snapchat. Even technology has changed , I don't have to trip over that 40 inch telephone cord anymore, my MacBook works at superb speed over turbo wifi . As with all things , with much progress comes much digress . 

Now we live in a world that likes and views determines a person's status, worth, and importance. The girl tweeting about how hard her test was today , gets zero retweets . Another girl tweeting about how drunk she got off that "hen dawg" , gets retweeted , and she will more than likely get several inappropriate emojis in her mentions . We look to social media for validation; validation not only for our own self-confidence but also for our relationships as well . 

So Does social media ruin relationships? Or does our use of social media cause our relationships to be ruined ? I believe the latter to be true. First off, I can't believe that a website can ruin what God has already planned and meant to be true, social media just sped up the process . Our generation truly believes that if you don't flaunt what you have , then you don't have anything . If you have money , you have to post a video on snapchat counting 5's and 10's . If you have a girlfriend or a boyfriend and they aren't your #MCM or #WCW every week then there is no way y'all's relationship can sustain. If you don't screenshot your grades and post them on Facebook at the end of each semester, obviously your grades are horrible and your GPA is -.3. Honestly, Who makes these rules ? We have no idea, YOU have no idea but yet we still chose to follow and fall victim to these outrageous standards of today's society. 

Along With the advancement of technology we also have the advancement of communication as a whole. About 100 years ago, the only way to communicate was by horse and boogie with a letter that took two weeks to arrive. Now days, an email can be sent across the world in the matter of a blink of an eye. In some cases social media sometimes magnifies what is already happening as it allows multiple new channels of communication. Sometimes I hear a lot of guys say they hate social media, social media is messy ... Yada yada yada ... But my question for those men are . What are you doing in your life , that women have to reap havoc over your timeline and comments? Do you have multiple women assuming their "bae" ?  Does your conversation with these women give them the impression and the right to be able to post on YOUR page whenever they so chose? And most of the time the answer to these questions are YES. How can you say social media ruined your relationship, when you were already cheating to begin with? YOU ruined YOUR relationship, by letting these females run a muck. If your relationship meant that much to you in the first place, there would have been no need for any "social media beef" . After all,  a real man, will never let his bench rider injure his point guard.

Ponder on that ... 

As women we have also let our usage of social media have a negative impact on our relationship and even how others view our relationship. No one cares about your tweet ... "Bae's on the way" ... No one cares about your snapchat ... *a video of bae driving not looking at the camera* ... And no one cares about the picture you posted on Instagram half naked in a bathroom mirror while "bae" grabs your buttocks, it's actually quite disgusting . I think I speak for us all when I say ... Women like you are annoying ! No one needs to know the private times and moments that you and your significant other share. As you're tagging your man in every picture you post of him on Instagram ... there is another woman out there following that tag from your page to his, to admire all of "your man's" glory. Guess what ? If you think he's fine ... There is somebody else in this world that thinks the same exact thing, and they could careless about you being "his girlfriend."

Somewhere along the way we lost our dignity and privacy. We allow our relationship to be viewed by as many people as possible, we air our own dirty laundry for our followers and the world to see. So if you think social media has ruined your relationship, ask yourself .... Has social media ruined my relationship? Was my relationship even a "relationship" in the beginning ? Or have I allowed my actions alone to ruin both my social media and my relationship? 

#QTNA